Health and Safety Politics

Adultery, sex denial crash 10-year-old marriage

Constant assaults end 18-year-old marriage of Ekiti hairdresser
Written by Maritime First

…As Ministry, stakeholders raise awareness over World Breastfeeding Week***

An Igando Customary Court in Lagos State on Monday dissolved a 10-year-old marriage of a printer over adultery and denial of sex.

The Court President, Mr Adeniyi Koledoye,  said that it appeared that Mr Joel Ocholi, 45,  and his wife, Felicia, were fed up with their union as efforts to reconcile them failed.

“Since both parties consented to the dissolution, this court has no choice than to dissolve the marriage.

“The court hereby pronounces the marriage between Joel Ocholi and Felicia Ocholi dissolved today, both of you henceforth cease to be husband and wife.

“Each of you should go his or her separate way unmolested; the court wishes both of you well in your future endeavours.

“The custody of the only child of the marriage is awarded to Felicia while Joel must be paying N5, 000 monthly for the child’s feeding and must be responsible for her education and general welfare,” Koledoye ruled.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that Joel had sought divorce, accusing Felicia, 40, of adultery.

“Felicia displayed her ex-boyfriend’s pictures in our room; I ordered her severally to remove the pictures and stopp calling the man but she refused.

“When I could no longer condone it, I removed those pictures and burnt them.

“She started moving around with men when my business was no longer flourishing,’’ he said.

The printer alleged that Felicia denied  him sex for two years and  returned her bride price.

According tp Joel, Felicia said that he was not man enough and could not take care of her.

He told the court that  Felicia burnt all their  pictures and uniform clothes.

The petitioner described Felicia as heartless, saying that she was jubilating when his mother died.

“When our pastor came and begged us to lend him N2 million, I told our pastor in the presence of my wife that we did not have money, but my wife  borrowed N1 million from each of my brother and her colleague and gave it to our pastor without my knowledge.

“I got to know when there was a quarrel  between her and our pastor over the money. It is three years now, the money has not been paid.

“I am the one paying her debt in installments to my brother,” Joel said.

Responding, Felicia, a businesswoman, denied extra-marital affairs and accused Joel of infidelity.

“A woman brought a boy of three years’ old to our house at 11p.m., claiming my husband is the father and that she came to take her rightful place; when I asked my husband, he said nothing.

“He borrowed money from me for something important,  but  used it to rent an apartment for the woman,’’ Felicia said.

She said that she returned her bride price because her husband wanted to kill her.

“My husband told me that he went to a herbalist to get something to put in my body so that if I sleep with another man, I will die  but the herbalist advised him not to do it.

“That was why I returned the bride price because my life is no longer safe in his hoUNICEFuse,’’ she said.

The respondent added that Joel was not providing for her and their only child.

“There was an agreement when we got married that when  we build our house, we would move out of his family house.

“We have built two houses of six flats, yet he refused to leave,’’ she added.

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In the meantime,  Federal Ministry of Health has planned series of events to improve awareness about the advantages of breastfeeding for both mothers and children to mark the World Breastfeeding Week (WBW).

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that WBW is a global campaign that aims to inform, anchor, engage and galvanise actions on breastfeeding and related issues.

The week is observed in about 120 countries of the world since 1992 between Aug. 1 and Aug. 7 to
encourage breastfeeding and improve the health of babies around the globe.

This year’s theme is “Empower Parents, Enable Breastfeeding”, chosen to focus on empowerment of both parents to value the goals of breastfeeding.

The focus aims to promote optimal breastfeeding practice for improved child survival, as well as facilitate the achievement of sustainable outcomes.

Consequently, the health ministry is collaborating with NGOs like Alive and Thrive, UNICEF, CS-SUNN, Action Against Hunger and Nutrition International on key initiatives to raise awareness on exclusive breastfeeding across the 36 states of the federation and the Federal Capital Territory.

A statement by Henry Nkume for Alive and Thrive (A&T), notes that the 2019 commemoration will take place in Abuja on Aug. 6 with the First Lady, Mrs Aisha Buhari, ministers and other delegates from across the federation expected to attend.

Nkume stated that the group planned to emphasise parental social protection policies and legislation and parent-friendly workplaces in both formal and informal sectors, and parent-friendly values and gender-equitable social norms.

“Furthermore, Alive and Thrive will launch `The World Breastfeeding Week in Nigeria” Facebook Live event on Aug. 6, 2019 at noon.

“The Abuja event will include the official launch of `Zero Water Exclusive Breastfeeding, Public Presentation of Maternity Assessment Report, Public Presentation of CS-SUNN Breastfeeding Video and the unveiling of the Start Strong IYCF Brand.

“This will be complemented with a panel session involving distinguished stakeholders such as Mrs Aisha Ummi Garba, the wife of Kaduna State Governor and the Chairperson of Kaduna State Emergency Nutrition Action Plan (KADENAP).

“The Senate Chairman of  Health Committee, and the President of the Nutrition Society of Nigeria are also expected,” Nkume stated.

A & T is a global initiative to save lives, prevent illness, and ensure healthy growth and development through improved breastfeeding and complementary feeding practices in Nigeria.

It aims to enhance child health, nutrition and cognitive development outcomes and save lives through a sustainable national programme of optimum breastfeeding and complementary feeding practices in children.

Managed by FHI 360, the group is currently funded by the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, Irish Aid, the Tanoto Foundation and UNICEF.




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