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The Sky Gets Dark, Slowly*

Getting old is a reality that we need to embrace and prepare for

Mao Dun literary prize winner Zhou Daxin’s latest novel to be published, “The Sky Gets Dark, Slowly”, is a sensitive exploration of old age and the complex, hidden emotional worlds of the elderly in a  rapidly ageing population.

In it he writes, “…Many elderly speak as though they know everything, but of old age they are in fact as ignorant as children. Many elderly are in fact, completely unprepared for what they are to face when it comes to getting old and the road that lays ahead of them.

In the time between a person turning 60 years old, as they begin to age, right until all the lights go out and the sky gets dark, there are some situations to keep in mind, so that you will be prepared for what is to come, and you will not panic.

 

1.

The people by your side will only continue to grow smaller in number. People in your parents’ and grandparents’ generation have largely all left, whilst many your peers will increasingly find it harder to look after themselves, and the younger generations will all be busy with their own lives. Even your wife or husband may depart earlier than you, or than you would expect, and what might then come are days of emptiness. You will have to learn how to live alone, and to enjoy and embrace solitude.

 

2.

Society will care less and less for you. No matter how glorious your previous career was or how famous you were, ageing will always transform you into a regular old man and old lady. The spotlight no longer shines on you, and you have to learn to contend with standing quietly in one corner, to admire and appreciate the hubbub and views that come after you, and you must overcome the urge to be envious or grumble.

 

3.

The road ahead will be rocky and full of precarity. Fractures, cardio-vascular blockages, brain atrophy, cancer… these are all possible guests that could pay you a visit any time, and you would not be able to turn them away. You will have to live with illness and ailments, to view them as friends, even; do not fantasise about stable, quiet days without any trouble in your body. Maintaining a positive mentality and get appropriate, adequate exercise is your duty, and you have to encourage yourself to keep at it consistently.

 

4.

Prepare for bed-bound life, a return to the infant state. Our mothers brought us into this world on a bed, and after a journey of twists and turns and a life of struggle, we return to our starting point – the bed – and to the state of having to be looked after by others. The only difference being, where we once had our mothers to care for us, when we prepare to leave, we may not have our kin to look after us. Even if we have kin, their care may never come close to that of your mother’s; you will, more likely than not, be cared for by nursing staff who bear zero relation to you, wearing smiles on their faces all whilst carrying weariness and boredom in their hearts. Lay still and don’t be difficult; remember to be grateful.

 

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There will be many swindlers and scammers along the way. Many of them know that the elderly have lots of savings, and will endlessly be thinking of ways to cheat them of their money: through scam phone calls, text messages, mail, food and product samples, get-rich-quick schemes, products for longevity or enlightenment… basically, all they want is to get all the money. Beware, and be careful, hold your money close to you. A fool and his money are soon parted, so spend your pennies wisely.

 

Before the sky gets dark, the last stretches of life’s journey will gradually get dimmer and dimmer; naturally, it will be harder to see the path ahead that you are treading towards, and it will be harder to keep going forward. As such, upon turning 60, it would do us all well to see life for what it is, to cherish what we have, to enjoy life whilst we can, and to not take on society’s troubles or your children’s and grandchildren’s affairs on for yourself. Stay humble, don’t act superior on account of your own age and talk down to others – this will hurt yourself as much as it will hurt others. As we get older, all the better should we be able to understand what respect is and what it counts for. In these later days of your lives, you have to understand what it means, to let go of your attachments, to mentally prepare yourself. The way of nature is the way of life; go with its flow, and live with equanimity.

 

*******For all of us, a nice read, very beautiful, very true …. !

 

Hardly the day started and …  it is already six o’clock in the evening.

 

Barely arrived on Monday and it’s already  Friday.

 

… and the month is almost over.

… and the year is almost up.

… and already 50 or 60 or 70 years of our lives have passed.

… and we realize that we lost our parents, friends.

and we realize that it is too late to go back …

 

So …  Let’s try  to take full advantage of the time we have left …

Let’s not stop looking for activities that we like …

Let’s put color in our greyness …

Let’s smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts.

 

And yet, we must continue to enjoy serenely the time that remains.

Let’s try to eliminate the “after” …

I do it after …

I will say after …

I will think about it after …

We leave everything for ‘later’ as if “after” was ours.

 

Because what we do not understand is that:

after,  the coffee cools …

after,  priorities change …

after,  the charm is broken …

after,  health passes …

after,  the children grow up …

after,  the parents get older …

after,  the promises are forgotten …

after,  the day becomes the night …

after,  life ends …

And all that afters, we find it’s often too late ….

 

So …  leave nothing for ‘later’ …

Because in always waiting for later, we can lose the best moments,

the best experiences,

the best friends,

the best family …

The day is today … The moment is now …

 

We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone until tomorrow what needs to be done right away.

 

So let’s see if you’ll have time to read this message and then share it.

 

Or maybe you’ll leave it for … “later” …

And you will not share it “ever” ….

 

Even share with those who are not yet “seniors”.

 

GOD bless us all!!!

 

 

Mrs. Funmi

Let’s Pray For one Another Group

 

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The Apostolic Church Pegs Ministers Retirement At 75 Years; Inaugurates 7-man Implementation Committee

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The Apostolic Church Pegs Ministers Retirement At 75 Years; Inaugurates 7-man Implementation Committee

The Apostolic Church Nigeria, TACN a foremost Pentecostal denomination has announced Ministers’ retirement age to be 75 years.

The Church with Gospel orientation and Evangelism fire operates under the full leadership of the Holy Spirit and gives room for Prophesy as a Ministry and sound doctrinal teachings by Teachers and administration by the Apostles.

One unique outlook of TACN is the National body, with a National President; the incumbent being Pastor Sampson Igwe.

Similarly, the National body is further divided into the Lagos And Western/Northern Areas (LAWNA) Territory having Lagos, Ijesha Land, Kaduna, Kaba, Ibadan, Abeokuta and a few other locations leading within the Territory.

As the name implies, the LAWNA Territory consisted of the present-day South Western States with two South Southern States of Edo/Delta and all nineteen (19) Northern-West, Central and East divides of Nigeria.

Similarly, TACN National consisted of the remaining four South Southern States in Cross River, Akwa Ibom, Rivers and Bayelsa which are further classified into Calabar (Cross River) Field; Igbo Field, Maritime Field; Akwa Igbo Field; and, Andoani Sub Field.

These operated with the LAWNA Territory whereby the Presidency of the Church rotates (National President, National Vice President) and other principal officers.

The Apostolic Church Pegs Ministers Retirement At 75 Years; Inaugurates 7-man Implementation Committee
Pastor Senior Gabriel Ukpako Uyeh, TACN National Vice President/Chairman, LAWNA Territory.

However, the Church operates full-time ministerial work for all categories of Pastors; these Clergy men work till death or incapacitation  (whichever one) in the past.

Similarly, the offices of the National President, the Vice and LAWNA Territorial Chairman; and other Fields/Territorial Chairmen too, with some other top officers are always in office till the time of death.

But, one seasoned Cleric, now late Pastor Gabriel Oladele Olutola who has been a Bible College Teacher, an Area Council Secretary cum District Apostle; an Area Superintendent, and then LAWNA Administrative Secretary changed the tides.

It happened that Pastor Olutola left the Admin Secretary’s office to go and become Area Superintendent, then at Mushin and Benin Area; in 2009, he became Acting Territorial Chairman for LAWNA.

Upon confirmation after a year, the National President passed on and by Divine order, Pa Olutola once stepped in, to become National President and Territorial Chairman for the Church.

In his time, some unification steps for the Church in Nigeria saw the Church adopting a single Annual Motto.

Then, in 2017, Pastor Olutola came up with an idea of retirement for the National President and LAWNA Territory Chairman; other Fields/Territories later adopted this novel idea.

Upon the retirement of Pa Olutola who was then tagged Emeritus President during the period of retirement before his passage in 2024 at 91; two personalty in person of Pastor Igwe and Pastor Emmanuel Segun Awojide (retired) respectively became National President and National Vice President/Territorial Chairman, LAWNA in TACN.

That dispensation saw the LAWNA Territory appointing a Vice Chairman for the first time rather than Admin Secretary which has always been next; the other six Fields/Territories also adopted Vice Chairman status for ease of administration.

The reformations also saw the Church moving the office of National President to Convention Grounds in Olorunda-Ketu, Lagos from Calabar, Cross River State, where the late Pastor E.E. Okon operated.

It was however agreed that these leaders would embark on retirement so other younger elements could take up executive posts in the Church.

Pastor Senior Gideon Ukpako Uyeh thereafter, became the very first Vice Chairman for LAWNA Territory.

As of last year, 2023, Pastor Awojide went on retirement and Pastor Uyeh stepped in as the 6th LAWNA Territorial Chairman/5th National Vice President for TACN.

In a similar development, Pastor David Oluwasegun Ajibade emerged as the second Vice Territorial Chairman for LAWNA.

So, with the turn of events in these new developments where other Fields/ Territories are adopting good innovations spearheaded by LAWNA Territory, the issue of retirement age for all Clergymen crept up and was robustly debated.

However, it was the second day and Sunday service of the 48th Annual LAWNA International Convention held at Olorunda-Ketu on August 4, 2024:

Pastor Uyeh publicly dropped hints about the agreed retirement age to effectively be 75 years of age.

He also hinted likelihood of forcing whichever Clergy men that won’t want to go based on the new policy.

Pastor Uyeh also announced that he too, would soon go on retirement.

The high point of this development was the appointment of 7 – a male Steering Committee that was prayed for, right inside the National Temple –

PST. A.B Geoffrey – Chairman; PST. S.A Akolo; and, PST. E.O Abe.

Others are:

PST. E.E Okon;

PST. I.E Omohoro; PST. D.A Oyeleke with an Overseer.

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LIGHTER MOOD: When the Lines Merged…!

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LIGHTER MOOD: When the Lines Merged...!

– FUNMI OWOYEX

IKOTUN 

LAGOS

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ABS @80: Sarumi, Great Man Who Humbly Works To Become Godly – Vicar Agbelusi

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ABS @80: Sarumi, Great Man Who Humbly Works To Become Godly - Vicar Agbelusi

…Tasks congregants to prioritise God, in whatever they do

The Doyen of the Nigerian Maritime industry, High Chief Adebayo Babatunde Sarumi was on Saturday described as a great man, who through enduring humility, gradually worked his way before the Lord, until he became godly.

 The Vicar of Our Saviour Church TBS, Ven Ore Agbelusi made the observation in a Special Thanksgiving Service sermon, on the occasion of Chief Adebayo Sarumi’s 80th Birthday, at the Race Course, in Lagos.

The big Church was heavily occupied by a huge population, comprising core maritime industry operators, Sector decision-makers, political juggernauts, families and friends of Chief Sarumi, trying to dwarf the large numbers of actual congregants of the church.

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Addressing the revered audience, the Vicar highlighted Sarumi’s virtues, dwelling especially on his selflessness, capacity to sow in seasons and out of season, and his unspared commitment to touching the lives of everyone who came in contact with him.

Leveraging on the 3rd Bible reading, taken from Matthew 6: verses 25- 34 which dwelt on not worrying over anything, but trusting the Lord to provide everything; while seeking His righteousness as everything else shall follow;  the Vicar stressed that Sarumi owed his success to his unhindered fear of God 

Ven. Agbelusi said while he had a strong desire to posit that Chief Sarumi had enjoyed some special favour of God, he was still restrained by his realisation that the celebrant always, especially prioritises everything about God, particularly the art of maximally giving glory to God!

Emphasising the symbolism of touching lives and demonstrating extreme gratitude to God, the Vicar recalled how once the Church decided to train some of its youths on skills acquisition; and at the end of the training, the church needed a certain number of Laptops.

The Church had vigorously and helplessly sought until the Celebrant’s wife brought it to her husband’s attention: pronto, a significant number of laptops were provided.

The elated Preacher stressed that a good number of those who obtained the laptops had since moved up the ladder of life, not necessarily because of the acquired skills, but because of the availability of the vital equipment!

He also recalled another instance of a seemingly lacklustre church building development, until Sarumi heard about it, and he wholeheartedly mobilised everyone to swoop on the project, and the uncompleted church building became a thing of the past!

“How then will God not be partial unto a man who prioritizes the things that touch Him!?”, he asked, adding that Sarumi knows that on whatever he had gone through, be it thick or thin, God is always there with him,

Ven. Agbelusi tasked his revered audience, to understand the need not only to serve God, wherever they are, but more importantly, to do so with genuine humility.

“God will never share his glory…”, he stressed, and strongly warned that the easiest way to go into oblivion, is to try to share God’s glory.

“Therefore, if anyone wants to go into oblivion, that person should strive to share God’s glory”, he stated, drawing sharp examples of the legendary King Nebuchadnezzar, who ate grasses of the fields like a beast until he repented; aside from another King, who was struck by an angel and instantly devoured by worms.

The sermon, obviously was tailor-made for the occasion. There was not a single poor man in the Church; and nobody slept or dosed in the excitingly, vivacious environment.

Some of those in attendance were the nation’s foremost shipping mogul, and Chairman, the Starzs Group, Engr. Greg Utomwen Ogbeifun; Chairmen of Seaports Terminal like Chief Obvude; the President, Nigerian Masters Mariners Association NMMA, Capt. Tajudeen Also; NMMA former president, Capt. Ernest Ishola.

Also in attendance were Maritime experts, the former Director General, Nigerian Maritime Administration and Safety Agency NIMASA, Barrister Mfon Usoro and her husband, a guru and Senior Advocate of Nigeria, Chief Usoro, a Prince of Ibadan and President General, Maritime Workers Union of Nigeria.

Other Maritime industry experts in the church included Capt Iheanacho Ebubeogu, and Capt Olopoenia, amongst several others.

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